Connections

Continuing another post's discussion on human desire for connection and its ability to switch off logic when in engaged mode: Nuclear blood relatives don't seem to cut it. Relationship and connection with relatives don’t seem to offer the same quality juice as that squeezed by connection pleasure from sharedness with non-relatives. While relatives do offer human connection juice, it seems just not a certain type of high grade stuff.

Perhaps, because they're part of us, and we seek connection with separate humans, perhaps from our survival instincts, others, not just family, increase the dimensionality of life.

We can’t talk about desire for and connecting with others without discussing arguably the strongest drive to connect – one on the trajectory to sex, whose primal basis is presumably procreation. That leads us then perhaps to the fundamental starting point of desire for connection - the DNA’s drive to procreate.

People primally really want to connect, as connectable as possible, with specifically non-relatives, to procreate. Then, the desire-to-connect's circle widens to a general drive to connect with non-relatives, not specifically to directly procreate, but to generally increase a tribe’s size, for general survival and thrival aims. We can hunt and harvest more, build better shelters and clothing, and fend off other people and things, if we have a bigger team.

The DNA has us hunger for both sexual and tribal social partners, and ensures the hunger is undisturbed by possible logical resistance, creating strong and sometimes illogical interest in other people’s company, attention, and activities… to connect.  

And so, a otherwise seemingly hyper intelligent person, might watch football, lynch someone, or ache for company while thoroughly enjoying themselves alone, thanks to the DNA's cellular bias towards connecting with fellow humans.